Work is where you spend a third of most of your adult life.
If you don't fully enjoy your job, it's not surprising you might find yourself occasionally (or frequently) getting angry at work.
First of all, understand that anger is a normal human emotion that nobody can be totally free of and everybody gets angry at work at some point or another.
It is how you manage your anger and how you allow it to present itself to others that sets you apart from the norm.
If you're reading this, you've probably already fallen into the habit of letting your anger be displayed to others in an out-of-control way and people have pigeon-holed you.
Not fair!
Habits can be hard to break, but breaking through other people's unfair opinions of you is even harder.
But it is not impossible - you just need to pace yourself and take things one step at a time.
This is how to do it:
1)Accept that you've been guilty of allowing your anger to get out of control and that you've let yourself down in this manner. 2)Appreciate that others are entitled to their own opinions. 3)Understand that other people's opinions do not change who you are as a person and therefore shouldn't have to influence or affect your behaviour. 4)Believe you can change your habits.
When you find yourself getting angry at work, at this point in time it is often too late to do anything about it.
So think about the management of your anger at work as your homework, that you do outside of work in preparation for the time when you are in work.
If you can spend 5 minutes of your day when you are not in work, when you are in a calm state, to see how you can change your behaviour at the times when you get angry, then this can drastically reduce the number of incidences when you do get angry at work and, over time, people will come to trust and respect you again (they do change!!) and you can eventually eliminate these out-of-control angry episodes.
It just takes time, so be prepared for the long haul and then you won't suffer disappointment or feel like a failure if it doesn't happen overnight.
For more information on how to Master Your Anger and also to gain support on changing your angry habits, visit:
www.masteryouranger.com and download my free report for you.
To your success,
Tina Matthews
First of all, understand that anger is a normal human emotion that nobody can be totally free of and everybody gets angry at work at some point or another.
It is how you manage your anger and how you allow it to present itself to others that sets you apart from the norm.
If you're reading this, you've probably already fallen into the habit of letting your anger be displayed to others in an out-of-control way and people have pigeon-holed you.
Not fair!
Habits can be hard to break, but breaking through other people's unfair opinions of you is even harder.
But it is not impossible - you just need to pace yourself and take things one step at a time.
This is how to do it:
1)Accept that you've been guilty of allowing your anger to get out of control and that you've let yourself down in this manner. 2)Appreciate that others are entitled to their own opinions. 3)Understand that other people's opinions do not change who you are as a person and therefore shouldn't have to influence or affect your behaviour. 4)Believe you can change your habits.
When you find yourself getting angry at work, at this point in time it is often too late to do anything about it.
So think about the management of your anger at work as your homework, that you do outside of work in preparation for the time when you are in work.
If you can spend 5 minutes of your day when you are not in work, when you are in a calm state, to see how you can change your behaviour at the times when you get angry, then this can drastically reduce the number of incidences when you do get angry at work and, over time, people will come to trust and respect you again (they do change!!) and you can eventually eliminate these out-of-control angry episodes.
It just takes time, so be prepared for the long haul and then you won't suffer disappointment or feel like a failure if it doesn't happen overnight.
For more information on how to Master Your Anger and also to gain support on changing your angry habits, visit:
www.masteryouranger.com and download my free report for you.
To your success,
Tina Matthews
About the Author
Tina Matthews has an honours degree in Psychology and is currently studying law. Tina has put together a special report on overcoming long term anger problems. This is the end result of having overcome personal anger problems that prevailed over many years. Tina is now dedicated to helping others to master their anger. For more information and a free report: www.masteryouranger.com
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